Have you ever given so much in a relationship that love began to feel like a tally? Pastor Vicky Lee explores how a connection can slip into keeping score—and what it might take to move toward mutual growth. Press play with a journal nearby and reflect on a relationship that has felt this way to you.
Real Love or Transaction: When Does Giving Become a Scorecard?
Giving and receiving rarely look perfectly equal every day. But what changes when one person feels trapped in a role, or an unspoken expectation begins to replace care? Pastor Vicky asks viewers to notice a moment when a relationship felt transactional without reducing the entire connection to that moment. Watch the video and try her journal prompt with a specific experience in mind.
From Transaction to Transformation: What Helps a Relationship Grow?
The secret to real love may begin with a question: are both people able to grow, connect, and support each other over time? Pastor Vicky contrasts a running tab of favors with the possibility of a relationship that develops through care and commitment. Play the video to explore that distinction, then consider what you can name honestly about your own needs, boundaries, and willingness to give.



